From Old Rituals to Hallmark Holiday: The History of Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day, as we know it—a bouquet of flowers, heartfelt cards, and perhaps a family brunch—is a relatively modern invention. However, honoring mothers and the powerful bonds of motherhood has roots stretching back millennia. This celebration’s complex journey winds through ancient festivals, early Christian traditions, social activism, and, ultimately, the savvy marketing that turned it into a global holiday. Let’s explore the origins and evolution of Mother’s Day before honoring the amazing women in our lives this year!

Tracing the History of Mother’s Day

Many ancient cultures held festivals celebrating fertility figures and mother goddesses. The Greeks honored Rhea, mother of the gods, with spring festivities. Romans had a three-day celebration for Cybele, a maternal goddess. In Egypt, symbols of motherhood were tied to the powerful goddess Isis. While not directly connected to our modern holiday, these practices show a longstanding human impulse to celebrate the feminine forces of creation and nurturing.

Mothering Sunday: A Christian Precursor

A more direct precursor to Mother’s Day emerged in the United Kingdom and parts of Europe. “Mothering Sunday” fell on the fourth Sunday of Lent in the Christian calendar. It began as a day when people would return to their “mother church,” the main church in their region, for a special service. Over time, it evolved into an annual holiday for honoring mothers. Servants would be granted a day off to visit their families, often bringing along gifts like special cakes for their mothers.

Ann Reeves Jarvis: The Woman Before the Woman Behind American Mothers’ Day

Ann Reeves Jarvis was a force to be reckoned with. Living in West Virginia (then part of Virginia) in the mid-1800s, she saw firsthand the devastating effects of poor sanitation and inadequate public health practices, especially on children and mothers. Determined to make a difference, she started organizing Mothers’ Day Work Clubs around 1858. Ten years later, Jarvis would establish a Mothers’ Friendship Day.

These clubs weren’t just social gatherings. They were practical, action-oriented groups. Jarvis mobilized women in her community to tackle the root causes of disease and mortality. They raised money to purchase medicine, hired women to work with families dealing with illnesses like tuberculosis, and educated the community about sanitation and hygiene.

When the Civil War erupted, Jarvis’s focus didn’t waver. She urged the Mothers’ Day Work Clubs to remain neutral, providing aid and care to wounded soldiers on both the Confederate and Union sides. Her efforts to promote healing and reconciliation were remarkable given the deeply divided climate of the time.

Though the Mothers’ Day Work Clubs themselves didn’t lead directly to our modern holiday, the spirit Ann Reeves Jarvis embodied—that of using motherhood as a catalyst for action and community improvement—profoundly shaped her daughter Anna. Ann also expressed her deep desire for a memorial mother’s day that honored women as much as men are honored.

Julia Ward Howe’s Proclamation

While Julia Ward Howe didn’t directly establish the Mother’s Day holiday we celebrate today, she played a crucial role in shaping the ideas of collective action and peace that are sometimes associated with the spirit of Mother’s Day. In 1870, deeply affected by the devastation of the American Civil War and the Franco-Prussian War, Howe wrote her powerful “Proclamation.” This was a call to action for women to unite across borders for the cause of peace and to protest the senseless loss of life caused by war.

Howe passionately advocated for a yearly “Mother’s Day for Peace,” to be celebrated globally on June 2nd. She organized large Mother’s Day peace gatherings in Boston for several years. Howe’s vision wasn’t about flowers and brunch. Her idea of Mother’s Day was deeply intertwined with social activism and the belief that mothers had a unique moral authority to demand an end to violence. The Mother’s Day service she held was repeated in Boston until the years preceding World War I, after which Anna Jarvis urged Woodrow Wilson to create an official date of honor and it became a more secular holiday.

Anna Jarvis: The Woman Who Made It Official

The woman who actually led to the founding of our modern Mother’s Day was a woman named Miss Anna Jarvis of Philadelphia. Following the death of her mother, Ann Reeves Jarvis (the aforementioned social activist), Anna began a determined campaign to create a national day recognizing mothers of all backgrounds in honor of her mother’s lifelong activism.

She found support from influential individuals, organized a massive letter-writing campaign, established the Mother’s Day International Association, and tirelessly lobbied politicians. Her persistence paid off when, in 1914, President Woodrow Wilson signed a proclamation establishing Mother’s Day as a national holiday. The Mother’s Day Proclamation announced that the holiday would be observed on the second Sunday of May each year. Anna actually celebrated her first Mother’s Day on May 12, 1907—seven years before the official holiday.

Commercialization and a Complicated Legacy

Anna Jarvis envisioned Mother’s Day as a time for personal reflection, writing letters expressing love and gratitude, or attending church services. However, the holiday’s rapid commercialization was something she came to despise vehemently. After Wilson adopted Mother’s Day, it evolved into a capitalist dream.

Florists, card companies, and confectioners quickly seized the opportunity for profit, turning her sentimental vision into a consumer-driven multi day celebration. Jarvis spent years and a significant portion of her inheritance fighting this transformation, even protesting against the sale of Mother’s Day cards.

The Evolution of Mother’s Day Traditions

Despite Jarvis’s disapproval, the traditions we associate with Mother’s Day flourished. The giving of carnations became customary, with pink or red carnations representing a living mother and white symbolizing one who had passed away. Restaurants offered special Mother’s Day brunches, and the exchange of cards and gifts became central to the celebration.

Beyond the Hallmark Card: Inclusivity and Nuance

Our understanding of motherhood and what it signifies is more expansive than it was in Anna Jarvis’s time. It’s crucial to acknowledge that Mother’s Day can be a complex time. For some, it’s a joyous celebration, yet for others, it can highlight loss, strained relationships, or the longing for motherhood that remains unfulfilled.

Observing Mother’s Day Around the Globe

Mother’s Day isn’t just an American affair. It’s celebrated worldwide, though often on different dates and with unique customs that reflect each country’s cultural heritage. From Mexico to Japan, here’s a brief look at a few local mother’s day traditions around the world.

Mexico (May 10th)

In Mexico, Mother’s Day, or ‘Día de las Madres,’ is fixed on May 10th each year, regardless of the day of the week. It’s a vibrant celebration filled with music and food. Children often serenade their mothers with mariachi bands, and families gather for large festive meals.

United Kingdom (March 26th)

The UK maintains the tradition of “Mothering Sunday,” with its roots in the 16th century. It falls on the fourth Sunday of Lent – in 2024, that’s March 26th. Gift-giving is common and focuses on small tokens such as flowers or spending time with loved ones.

Thailand (August 12th)

Thailand aligns its Mother’s Day with the birthday of Queen Sirikit, beloved for her role as a mother figure to the nation. The 2024 celebration falls on August 12th. It features parades, ceremonies, and the offering of jasmine (symbolic of motherhood) to mothers and grandmothers.

Japan (Second Sunday of May)

Like the US, Japan observes Mother’s Day on the second Sunday of May, which will be May 12th in 2024. Children often present their mothers with red carnations and handcrafted gifts, showcasing gratitude and affection.